Q:Hi I'm 15 at an all boys school in the closet (not ready to come out) but despite that I don't hide it very well.
A boy I've been friends with since I was 13 has basically come out to me and told me he likes me physically and my personality. He's also not camp at all and just seems like a normal guy.
I always fantasized about having a boyfriend but whenever a guy actually shows interest in me like this I get a little worried. What should I do? I don't feel all that attracted to him?
Anonymous
One thing that I fully believe in is that you should only do what you’re comfortable doing. If you feel like you aren’t ready or interested in having a relationship at this point in your life, then you should wait until that changes.
My reaction would be to thank him for his honesty and trusting you with the fact that he’s gay. It takes a lot for a person to say that, especially to a person that you’ve known for a while. Show that you really do appreciate that he told you. After that, it’s really up to you whether you want to stay friends or try a relationship. Like I already said, this has to do with how prepared you are and comfortable with it. The safest option would be to ask him if you two could simply remain good friends for now.
I hope this helps, and good luck to both of you with whatever happens!
Q:I'm gay, but i'm not entirely comfortable with having anal sex. It just seems gross-I don't want anything in my ass, and I don't really want to put my dick into somebodies ass. My friends who have had anal sex said it hurt like a bitch, but that can't be true, cause nobody would do it then.
So-is it weird that I'm not interested in Anal sex
Is Anals sex all it's cracked up to be?
Does it hurt if you're on bottom?
Anonymous
Only do what you are comfortable doing. If you are uncomfortable with anal sex, then don’t allow anyone else to pressure you into doing it. Know where your boundaries are, and stick to them.
Also, there are many different ways to have sex with someone other than anal penetration. Not all sexual encounters even involve a form of penetration. When you think about it, there are plenty of other ways for you to enjoy your body and someone else’s. When exploring these possibilities, be sure that the other party is comfortable with what you’re doing. It’s important that both (or all) involved are okay with what is happening.
As for anal sex, it can hurt, but it can also feel great once you get used to it. I suggest exploring your own body and your own limits before experiencing it with another person. If you do end up having anal sex, be upfront and vocal about your feelings and reactions to the other person. Don’t be afraid to tell them to stop, pull out, or slow down whenever you start to feel uncomfortable.
I hope this helped!
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